Christine

My sister's mother-in-law died on Sunday.

Christine was one of the most caring souls you'd ever meet. And she was an unapologetic Newfoundlander. I'm sure anyone she's ever met could tell you about how deeply Christine loved her family and how committed she was to her roots. She was authentic and open, and that was so endearing.

Over the past year my brother-in-law has had to go through a lot of ups and downs. Christine was diagnosed almost exactly one year ago with leukaemia and it was a crazy journey.

My brother-in-law Lee saw her daily and posted almost every day about his visits. Social media became a way for those of us who are slightly removed to follow her condition and send well-wishes. The condolences are now pouring in on Facebook and my sister says that Lee has appreciated hearing from so many.

Now, if you read books on grief, social media condolences are generally considered an 'ok' first step, but not the pinnacle of how to support the aggrieved. Similar to every other rule of thumb, I'd now say that this really depends. Lee has been very public with his journey and now with his loss. His post honouring his mom is one of the most beautiful I have ever read. It is logical and appropriate for people to be responding in kind.

And to Christine, wherever you may be: thank you for being you, and for making your mark on this world. Wishing Mike, Lee, Cheryl, Anna and Max peace as they remember how deeply you touched their lives.