Chocolate cake

"Leave nothing unsaid"... we might say this, but how often do we actually write down the little things?

That piece of advice I've filed away for when my daughter is older. The ancient jokes between friends where the secret meanings may get lost. The family recipe that lives in minds and muscle memory only.

My husband's biggest regret is not getting his dad's chocolate cake recipe before he died four years ago... it was damn good cake!

This excellent article suggests that these are the types of things that make up our legacy. The things by which we would be remembered, the nuggets that would be most meaningful to our loved ones. So why wait?

Start your 'ethical will' today:
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/ethical-will-legacy-letter-why-you-want-one_n_5eeb7a09c5b6c8594c7f2d03?guccounter=1


Also, please send cake recipe recommendations.

Showing Up

I know I am not alone when I say that everything has been a LOT over the past few weeks. And I say this from my very white, very privileged point of view.

I cannot fathom how 2020 is materializing for black, indigenous, or people of colour. I cannot imagine how 2020 has traumatized so many people in our society... the only thing I can do is show up and do the work.

I'm here for it, and my only hope is that I have the fortitude to continue & keep up with it.

Black Lives

In dealing with death, those of us not experiencing the grief closely cannot possible imagine the pain that the bereaved person is experiencing.

For black citizens of our world, the same is true of their experiences of blatant racism and micro aggression suffered every single day. Now is not the time for another white voice... so I am going to simply paste something I have posted on some of my other social media channels.

I haven’t made statements about racial injustice recently because I have been wanting to leave space for those who experience these atrocities. I’m speechless and sickened about the state of our world- how do we actually bring about change? As a start, I think this list deserves to be amplified. Time to become ANTI-RACIST. #blacklivesmatter

Copied and pasted from others online:

I have privilege as a white person because I can do all of these things without thinking twice...

I can go birding (#ChristianCooper).

I can go jogging (#AmaudArbery).

I can relax in the comfort of my own home (#BothemSean and #AtatianaJefferson).

I can ask for help after being in a car crash (#JonathanFerrell and #RenishaMcBride).

I can have a cellphone (#StephonClark).

I can leave a party to get to safety (#JordanEdwards).

I can play loud music (#JordanDavis).

I can sell CD's (#AltonSterling).

I can sleep (#AiyanaJones)

I can walk from the corner store (#MikeBrown).

I can play cops and robbers (#TamirRice).

I can go to church (#Charleston9).

I can walk home with Skittles (#TrayvonMartin).

I can hold a hair brush while leaving my own bachelor party (#SeanBell).

I can party on New Years (#OscarGrant).

I can get a normal traffic ticket (#SandraBland).

I can lawfully carry a weapon (#PhilandoCastile).

I can break down on a public road with car problems (#CoreyJones).

I can shop at Walmart (#JohnCrawford) .

I can have a disabled vehicle (#TerrenceCrutcher).

I can read a book in my own car (#KeithScott).

I can be a 10yr old walking with our grandfather (#CliffordGlover).

I can decorate for a party (#ClaudeReese).

I can ask a cop a question (#RandyEvans).

I can cash a check in peace (#YvonneSmallwood).

I can take out my wallet (#AmadouDiallo).

I can run (#WalterScott).

I can breathe (#EricGarner).

I can live (#FreddieGray).

I CAN BE ARRESTED WITHOUT THE FEAR OF BEING MURDERED. (#GeorgeFloyd)

White privilege is real. Take a minute to consider a Black person’s experience today.

#BlackLivesMatter